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Good Relationship

How to Help a Friend Who Has Lost a Family Member Without Making Things Worse

Sooner or later you will need advice for helping a friend who has lost a family member- and when the time comes, this book is one of the best on the topic. The title sums it up well:
Don’t Ask for the Dead Man’s Golf Clubs – What to Do and Say (and What Not to) When a Friend Loses a Loved One.
This book by Lynn Kelly is written in short sections formed from interviews with those who have personal experiences with loss. I bought it when my friend’s father was dying of cancer, and my own father had been diagnosed with lymphoma. (And, no I didn’t ask for his golf clubs.) It was a great help.
Lynn Kelly covers what really eased the pain for people who had lost a loved one. It also covers very clearly what others said and did which brought more hurt to them. However, isn’t it better to know what not to say? Sometimes when friends experience a tragedy we say little or nothing, or even pull away, maybe telling ourselves that they need time alone to grieve. We may fear that we will say or do the wrong thing. This book helps solve these problems. You’ll know what helped others and read samples of what it is better not to say. You won’t leave your friend feeling abandoned.
One point that is covered well is that promises should be kept. The person may really depend on your taking their kids to an event now and then, if you said that you would, and the kids may really look forward to it. But sometimes promises like that are forgotten by the one who made them, disappointing the young person. It is not always 100% convenient to keep a promise but in this case it is much more important than usual.
Sometimes we think that the person who suffered a loss would prefer not to have the name of their loved one come up in conversations and random memories. Yet family members have not forgotten their loved one and never will. They generally don’t mind hearing good memories which include their loved one, and feel better knowing that someone else remembers them as well.
Some loses are within the range of events that we expect to happen sooner or later in life- such as the loss of an elderly parent. At those times we still need the encouragement and support of friends. However if a family member is lost “before their time” the remaining members need the support and care of friends even more — though friends might be more uncertain of what to say and do. This book covers these topics well.…

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Family Happiness

4 Things to Do Immediately to Live a Better Life If You Have Bipolar Disorder

When learning to cope with bipolar disorder, there are four things that you need to begin to do it in order to bring your life to a steady place that has a direction and meaning on a daily basis whenever you awaken. We are going to discuss the four things that you need to do with bipolar disorder in order to function properly and stay on track in life.
The first thing you need to do is understand a general overview of bipolar disorder and what comes along with this mental. Only when you have a general understanding of bipolar disorder and its symptoms can you begin to manage your life better. Education is the first step in all areas of life, including learning about your mood disorder or particular mental illness. You can do this by reading different articles or books on the Internet or from a bookstore.
The second way is to begin keeping a journal or a log on a daily basis from now on. There should be no exception to this rule. Everywhere you go, you should have the ability to take out your journal and a pen and start to write about your emotions in any questions you may have about your mood disorder. You will be able to make plans for the future and write down your emotional state each and every day whenever you start to have confusion or questions about what you should be doing or where you should people. This is the first huge step towards living a healthy life and becoming mentally satisfied that you need to take. You should even divide your journal or notebook into different sections and you may label them, exercise, moods, triggers, symptoms etc.
The third thing you need to do is start setting goals that are small. The goal should be something you can do each and every day to help develop a more satisfied life. Goal setting is a part of life that all of the individuals do on a regular basis. You should write down short-term goals and long-term goals that are very simple and easy to achieve. Starting with the short-term goals such as adding a goal to Journal every day for 30 days in a row would be a great place to begin.
The fourth thing you must do this to make a commitment either by writing a contract or putting leverage in place with a friend or family member. You may agree that for the first 30 or 60 days of journaling that will e-mail a friend or family member at the end of each day confirming how many times you to. Whatever you do, make sure you put conditions in place to help support what it is you want to accomplish.…