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How to Help a Friend Who Has Lost a Family Member Without Making Things Worse

Sooner or later you will need advice for helping a friend who has lost a family member- and when the time comes, this book is one of the best on the topic. The title sums it up well:
Don’t Ask for the Dead Man’s Golf Clubs – What to Do and Say (and What Not to) When a Friend Loses a Loved One.
This book by Lynn Kelly is written in short sections formed from interviews with those who have personal experiences with loss. I bought it when my friend’s father was dying of cancer, and my own father had been diagnosed with lymphoma. (And, no I didn’t ask for his golf clubs.) It was a great help.
Lynn Kelly covers what really eased the pain for people who had lost a loved one. It also covers very clearly what others said and did which brought more hurt to them. However, isn’t it better to know what not to say? Sometimes when friends experience a tragedy we say little or nothing, or even pull away, maybe telling ourselves that they need time alone to grieve. We may fear that we will say or do the wrong thing. This book helps solve these problems. You’ll know what helped others and read samples of what it is better not to say. You won’t leave your friend feeling abandoned.
One point that is covered well is that promises should be kept. The person may really depend on your taking their kids to an event now and then, if you said that you would, and the kids may really look forward to it. But sometimes promises like that are forgotten by the one who made them, disappointing the young person. It is not always 100% convenient to keep a promise but in this case it is much more important than usual.
Sometimes we think that the person who suffered a loss would prefer not to have the name of their loved one come up in conversations and random memories. Yet family members have not forgotten their loved one and never will. They generally don’t mind hearing good memories which include their loved one, and feel better knowing that someone else remembers them as well.
Some loses are within the range of events that we expect to happen sooner or later in life- such as the loss of an elderly parent. At those times we still need the encouragement and support of friends. However if a family member is lost “before their time” the remaining members need the support and care of friends even more — though friends might be more uncertain of what to say and do. This book covers these topics well.…

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Scenario: Missing Family Member

What Should I Do?
When discovering that a loved one is missing, the feelings of devastation and loss are hard to overcome. By following the simple steps below, you will gain some control in locating your missing loved one. Do not hesitate to seek outside assistance because, often, the missing will be returned safely and unharmed if you take action immediately. Avoid doing nothing because this action (no action) could present more danger for your missing loved one.
1. Don’t panic! You need to be clear headed to consider your actions, options and resources.
2. Gather recent photos and dental records, if possible.
3. Write down the date of disappearance and a description of the missing person; height, weight, color of eyes and hair, age and birthdate, birthmarks and other identifying items; scars, tatoos, rings. The clothing the missing was wearing could also be important. Worn clothing can provide DNA. Even interests and talents could be helpful in locating your missing person.
4. Write down names, addresses and phone numbers of people who the missing was with the last time they were seen and where the loved one was when they disappeared.
5. If a child or adult has just wandered away from home, you need to call law enforcement and/or an agency who can help you do a physical search immediately.
6. Now report your missing loved one to the agencies who can help you. There are many organizations who can help. Do not try to bear this crisis alone. You need some outside support for your sanity and assistance.
7. If internet savvy, check the missing’s email communications. Amber Alert, Porchlight International, Peace4 The Missing, The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children, the Runaway Switchboard are just some of the internet and public organizations which can help. Most of these organizations offer service for free. You could publish information about your missing family member on Squidoo, Blogger, Twitter, Facebook, My Space and any other social networks, also free.
8. Stay busy and avoid unnecessary worry. Worry increases your stress level which may be a detriment to locating your missing person.
9. Report any new communications from or locations of the missing to the selected advocate or law enforcement agencies.
10. If your missing person was a runaway and has since returned home, please visit and direct your loved one to some of the organizations which can help the person avoid future disappearances. These services are especially directed to teens and free.
Operation L.A.P. Foundation, Inc., aka Wisconsin Center 4 Missing Children & Adults (WCMCA) is an organization ready to help you. They will do physical searches. Their services are free and they are a registered 501(3)(c) charity. The organization is completely staffed by unpaid volunteers. If contacted as 1st responder, WCMCA will even report your missing loved one to your local law enforcement and act as your liaison, coordinating the search. WCMCA has helped 100’s of families.…

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How to Help a Family Member Dress Better

Dressing up is an art and important part of self development. It is the first step to being noticed by those around you. Now, lets say, you would like to help a close friend or family member to dress better or dress for party then here are few steps:

Get to know the family member’s interests: Know more about your family member’s age, favorite shades, shapes, silloutte patterns of interest. Based on the body shape you can head out for some serious shopping. Certain patterns will surely bring out the flattering parts of the body such as vertical stripes that make the body to appear slimmer.

Know the occasion: Understand the reason for which your family member needs to be more well dressed. Is it a casual outing, office wear, or for special occasions such as parties or weddings.

Follow the Lead: Know more about the role model that your family member appreciates. This could also include movies, advertisements that represent the member’s interests. Use this information to incorporate in the family member dress.

Being trendy would only flatter your beloved and help others to appreciate them. Browse through interesting magazines to know the style that would suit them best.

After getting fair idea of the interest level lets head over to the nearest boutique or mall for some fancy shopping around..

At the store try the following:

Try solid colors: Based on the features and skin shades try the color palette. For lighter skin types, try shades such as maroon, blue, brown, where as, darker skin types could go in for blue, yellow, and so on.

Always go in for contrasting patterns such as solid black with trousers having pattern such as lines, stripes, etc.

Visit speciality stores that cater to special needs such as plus sizes or slimmer sizes.

Depending on size, try out some of the latest clothes complete with accessories to bring out the beautiful side of your loved one. Keep it elegant with simple pieces such as bracelet or watch that can be mixed with various outfits.

Ladies could also get a makeover with matching make up and jewellery such as elegant pair of earrings.

Team up trendy jackets with various dresses depending on the occasion such as work or after work party.

Cropped pants are making an interesting comeback which your family member can pair up with cool t-shirts.

Jumper suits are also an ideal choice for those members who are interested in trendy dressing.

That’s all for stay stylish!…

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Family Relationships

You Can Do a Good Deed by Sponsoring a Friend or Family Member in Their Own Home Business

You can do a good deed that will mean a livelihood for a family member or friend who needs employment. What can you do? You can financially sponsor someone in his or her own home business. You could make a six-month or one-year commitment. A secondary benefit is that you will help the economy by helping stimulate some new business, a growing income, and the spending of that earned money.
There are opportunities to build a home business that have a low initial membership fee and a modest monthly investment. A home business is worked from one’s own home via phone, internet, vehicle, and local contact. So, it won’t cost the person you sponsor extra money for gas, clothes, lunches, and more. There are also great tax-deductions for people with home businesses.
A term used for researching a good home-based business company is “due diligence.” You can do your due diligence and search for companies with good reputations, high integrity, and quality products or services. Some other things to look for, that should accompany the distributorship, are ongoing training, teamwork and support, a fair and generous compensation plan, strong internet resources, and a simple system of operation.
The person you sponsor will need to want to do this (desire, motivation, and initiative), be self-disciplined and interested in working hard, and a commitment to be consistent with the training opportunities offered by the company. A good home-business company is not a free ride, but an opportunity to work and build a business. Another thing the person will need is to schedule daily work time so that the building of this new business will have a consistent personal sweat-equity invested in his or her new opportunity.
Do you have someone to help? Are you willing to invest a small amount of money for them to get started? A good low-cost range would be around $100 per month. See if that person is willing to pay the price in hard work!
Think About It, Joe H.…