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Stressed Because You’re Falling Behind?

No-one said life was easy, and no-one certainly said life was fair. Everyday we leave the house with a fairly good idea of what the day will bring. A�Sometimes those days can seem overwhelming, especially if some unforeseen situation arises. Many people have panic attacks and freak out at the thought of trying to cope with all of their responsibilities. Juggling children with work or personal goals and relationships, it’s never easy to allot the appropriate time to everything you need to do, and do it all with the least amount of stress.
Have a plan. If you’re one of those people that have a million and one things to do in a day, then plan your day out. Keep yourself on that schedule. Everything in your day should be planned out, from breakfast to the gym, to time with your kids or partner. When you live a busy lifestyle you need to plan down time too. It’s very important for your well being. Having a plan will reduce your stress because you will have thought things through as to what you can reasonably accomplish. Sticking to that plan will ensure your day runs smoother.
Be realistic. Sure it’s great to have lofty expectations. But you can’t lie to yourself. You and you alone know what you’re capable of achieving. I’m not saying don’t push yourself, but don’t put yourself in a position where you end up stressing yourself out with unrealistic goals. Be good to yourself. Be true to yourself, and you’ll achieve much, much more in the long run. Life isn’t a sprint. It’s a marathon. Don’t beat yourself up trying to keep up with others. Half the time it’s a smoke screen anyway.
Don’t get caught up in doing other people’s responsibilities. You can’t do it all.A� Why should you? You’re taking responsibility for yourself, and so should others. There’s time to help, then there are times when you should stay focused on your task at hand. Realize that sometimes you’re not doing someone a favour when you actually do their work for them. You’re not doing yourself a favour either because you’re not focused on you, which will set you back and disrupt your schedule.
Persevere. Stick to your plan. Don’t allow the voices in your head to talk you out of getting things done. You get tired, and feel lazy; maybe it’s too hot outside. But you must continue to ensure you put yourself in a position of winning. Falling behind will only stress you out more. It may be hard work to stick to the plan, but the sense of accomplishment and the satisfaction of being orderly will relieve your stresses, and make you feel empowered to live another day.
Elliot Zovighian is the owner of EZLifestyles and is a personal coach, writer, speaker and father from Toronto Canada who is committed to helping those live easier, happier lives.…

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Helping Kids Manage Stress

It is not true that adults are the only ones capable of feeling stressed because there are also so many reasons why kids get stressed. Each of us deals with stress in different aspects of life since we were young. Exams and exam results are the major causes of stress in children. Physical abnormality can also cause kids stress.
Kids usually find it hard to handle stress and the related problems may get worse when they grow up. Too much stress can cause problems like upset stomach, annoyance, tantrums or total withdrawal of kids hence, it is necessary to know how to manage stress on kids properly. It is the role of the parents/guardians as well as teachers to help them cope up through stress management.
Like any other relationships, communication is needed for parents to know and understand what the kid’s problems are. More often than not, kids do not tell their parents what are the things that are bothering him. Therefore parents must be on the lookout of their kid’s unusual actions. If this happens, talking and reaching out to them is a must.
Like they always say, parents are the kid’s first mentors. This means that kids learn almost everything from you including attitude. This simply means that if you wish your kid to be positive, then you must also show positive attitude. Being negative only worsen stress. So, if your child is having some problem, cheer him up and say that there is always a solution to every problem.
As parents, never hesitate to show your kid your love and affection by hugging and kissing him. Physical touch also plays a very vital role in helping your child get over stress. Let your child know that you are always there to protect and support him.
These are some of the basic techniques on how you can help your child manage stress. Remember to spend much quality time with your child and never let any unusual behavior pass.…

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Culture As a Weapon in Inter-Tribal Warfare

Culture, at its simplest level, is little more than the ways we do things in life, and the underlying beliefs and values which support these ways. Yet, it is a complex of behaviours, with origins, influences, and impacts which are manifold and inter-linked.
Each human baby is born with a unique genetic structure and potential. That may not be all. Hindu philosophy says that, at birth, the baby inherits a soul. The soul is believed to be an ongoing entity, being reincarnated (ie. reborn) again and again, acquiring increasing knowledge and, hopefully, some cosmic merit. Each new-born baby will, according to this philosophy, carry traces of its past lives, thus affecting its responses to events and experiences in the future.
Even without any input from an imputed soul-entity, the baby will certainly bring into the world of human existence an inheritance of a shared capacity and potential for responding to stimuli of all kinds during its life. This innate ability reflects the evolution of the human brain over a long period of time, and seems to be structured and located as neural circuits linking components of the modern brain. This generalised human ability should have no regard for the trivial surface differences which can separate human beings – such as skin colour, facial features, speech, and so on.
We are so much alike that babies everywhere, like sparrows and chickens or kittens and pups, make the same sounds, and respond alike, instinctively, to comparable stimuli all over the world. Inherited genetic differences, including some personality traits from grandparents, will of course serve to distinguish one child from another – sometimes significantly. Such differences, however, can be seen to be generalised over all human populations, whether Chinese, Maori, European, and so on. For example, an aggressive personality is the same in diverse cultures.
Each culture seeks uniform behaviour from its constituent members. That part of the acculturation process which is involved with the upbringing of its youth to ensure correct to acceptable behaviour, both inside and outside each family and tribe, will produce similar behaviour globally. For, good conduct is, by and large, uniform across cultures; it has to be, has it not, having regard to the shared evolutionary process? Such behaviours cannot surely be described as what constitutes culture as normally defined.
Any divergence from instinctively shared rules about good conduct may have derived initially from isolation, and a fear of ‘the other.’ When a number of extended families, each linked by their particular set of genes, evolved pragmatically, or even by necessity, over time into a tribe, they would have become linked by language, and agreement about how to do certain things.
These could range from actions and practices related to tribal harmony, external security, long-term viability (such as outlawing incest), and governance; as well as activities of a creative nature – painting, sculpture, song and dance, and all manner of crafts. Either following the establishment of ritualistic procedures, or associated with that, there may have arisen some philosophical considerations, or simply attempted explanations, about nature and the place of these people within it (including the conservation of necessary natural resources).
There may also have arisen to positions of influence self-selected shamans (or other priesthoods), or individuals seeking authority to rule through a claimed descent from an imputed god in an assumed over-world. A belief system would then have arisen which articulated these distinguishing attributes of the tribe into a coherent whole. Tribal, that is, cultural, differences may thus, over time, reflect both accidents of development, the need to ensure viability, and the display of power by priests or rulers.
A major issue is whether the cultural differences which have developed over time and across the globe are so different as to warrant or justify inter-tribal separation or even conflict.
In the absence of conflict over resources, differences in the ways people speak or dress, the way they relate to one another, or the ways they cook and eat their foods, do not seem to be important, although certain food taboos may not be shared. How people relate to others not of their kind is, however, strategically affected, not so much by how they pray, but to what (or whom) they pray. Praying to the same god has not led to a unity of minds. Presumably, all the religious people of mankind accept that there can be only a sole creator of all that is, named God.
Dogma divides. For what benefit? For the exercise of power, through a cult of difference and implied superiority. Cultural differences based on divergent religious dogma are then emphasised to justify separation and, if necessary, conflict.
Prof. Huntington’s thesis about probable future conflict being between civilisations may yet bear fruit.…

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Examples Of Emotional Abuse In Relationships

It’s impossible to compare examples of emotional abuse with those of physical abuse. Both are beneath contempt. A classic example of emotional abuse has been televised a lot lately. This poor lady put her life on hold so that her rat of a husband could put himself through Law school.
Then he decided to have an affair with his secretary. When his wife found out, all he yelled at her was that she had become ‘fat and ugly.’ This secretary started to send her samples of skin toner and other beauty products so that she might make herself look young again. That, and any number of insults over the phone and through the post.
In the end, she snapped and shot the pair of them. She was put in prison for God knows how long, and the Law should hang its head in shame.
But other examples of emotional abuse are when the husband starts trying to isolate you from your family and friends. This is why it’s so vitally important to really know the person you’re marrying. Keep your eyes and ears open around their friends. Are they popular? Well liked? How do they interact with their own family? And, more importantly, with your own family?
Be ready to listen when a friend or family member has misgivings. Listen to them carefully and ask them why. Instinct can play a very important part of recognizing faults in someone that you yourself can’t see, or won’t see, because you’re just too close. Even the best preparations don’t ready you for what your partner’s really like.
We’ve mentioned this business of alienating you from friends and family. As soon as he starts this caper, you must take a strong stand. One thing he may try to do is to withhold money from you. Now before you marry, this matter of an allowance for you, or however you intend him to pay you, should be thrashed out exhaustively.
The chances are, though, certainly in the first few years of your marriage, you have a job. So for the time being, the financial subject becomes moot. He may well tell you, in a disdainful tone, that you’re out of shape and need to go to the gym. Tell him he’s no bowl of roses himself.
It’s so important that you stand up to him. He’s a bully by any other name, be he knocking you about physically or trying to undermine you mentally. If you simply let him walk all over you, this he’ll do with the greatest of pleasure.
He may decide that he’s no longer interested in you sexually. That’s a relief, you say, because you no longer have to be intimate with him. He may complain about your cooking. Simply tell him that he has money in his pocket. He can go out and eat what he likes.
The long and the short of it is to counter every bad move he makes on you with one of your own. These characters only succeed when their victims don’t fight back…

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The Best Price for Babies’ Swimwear: How to Avoid Being Ripped Off

Trying to buy children’s swimwear is a real challenge and when you’re shopping for babies’ swimwear, that challenge becomes even more difficult. As a general rule, children grow rapidly and it seems like the smaller they are, the faster they grow. The natural impulse might be to look for the least expensive piece of babies’ swimwear you can find because you may end up buying a larger size by the end of the summer. However, it is essential that you figure out how to balance quality with price. Here is a four step method that will help you do it:
1. Look for the UPF rating on the label. The number one concern parents should have about quality when purchasing baby swimwear or toddler girl or boy swimwear is whether the suit provides any protection against the sun’s harmful ultraviolet radiation. Read the labels or the descriptions of the suits to find out what the ultraviolet protection factor (UPF) is on them. The highest rating is 50+. Suits that do not say what the UPF is probably provide little, if any protection against the sun.
2. Check the materials the suit is made of. The label should also tell you what kinds of materials were used to manufacture the suit. A blend of nylon and Lycra is probably your best bet for baby or toddler girl swimwear because it will keep her protected and wick moisture away so that she doesn’t get cold.
3. Shop around and find at least three options at different stores. The easiest and fastest way to do this is to buy baby swimwear online. You can have the sites of several stores up at the same time so that it’s easy to do a side by side comparison. As you’re comparing prices, sun protection and UPF, a clear winner will begin to emerge.
4. Look for other ways to save, whether it’s with a coupon or free shipping. Retailers almost always have some kind of sale going on but it is easy to overspend by simply not being aware that there is a money saving coupon available.
Getting the best price for baby swimwear is simply a matter of doing your homework rather than jumping at the first cute swimsuit you see. Your little one may even outgrow her suit before summer ends, so take that into consideration while you shop. Anyone can find the best balance between quality and price if they just put their mind to it.…

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An Overview of the Safety First Baby Monitor

Part of the preparations made for the arrival of a baby include finding a monitoring device that will provide the kind or system parents need. The Safety first baby monitor provides parents with a way to provide the attention to their baby during sleep that it needs. Parents are able to perform daily activities or sleep while the monitor stands vigil over the baby and provides an alert if parents are needed.
Infants and babies require many supplies when preparations are being made for their entry into a household. Often the items automatically purchased include bedding, clothing, toiletries, etc.. However, having a monitoring system will prove invaluable to the time the infant or baby is first brought home.
The monitors are discrete and when the baby begins to crawl and grab cords and other objects on the ground the safety first baby monitor will give off an alert to parents who may be in another room. By removing items that a baby can pull down from a dresser or table, parents will further protect the baby when they are exploring their environment.
Many new infants seem to lie perfectly still. Parents sometimes cannot tell if they are breathing and become alarmed. With the use of the safety first baby monitor parents are kept assuring that all is well with their baby. The receiver has a 900MHz frequency that is providing clear audio from up to four hundred feet. The receiver is small and light. It can be clipped on the clothing when one is performing other tasks.
The transmission of the safety first baby monitor has been set on a channel that is not often in use. This reduces the interference in audio. There are alerts on the monitor that a parent can set in addition to the standard alerts provided.
The monitor provides clear audio at all times. When the baby is sleeping and one is not sure if it is breathing, the baby first is monitoring the movement of the infant and when it stops moving an alert starts to sound. Babies often lie very still and one cannot tell visually if they are moving and breathing. This makes many video monitoring devices less effective.
The safety first baby monitor varies in price based on what types of features that one wishes to include in the monitor. Some of the monitors include sensor pads that fit snugly under the baby’s mattress and contain a motion sensor. If the baby doesn’t move for twenty seconds an alarm is sounded so that parents can check their baby. The monitors also can be set to detect motion in the nursery when the baby begins to crawl and explore the room.
Ensuring the safety of an infant and baby is one of the most important tasks that new parents have. Making sure that the baby is secure even when sleeping can greatly reduce the stress of the first few weeks that a baby is home. Using a safety first baby monitor, the parents can be assured that they will be alerted if there is any unusual event taking place in the nursery. They will be alerted when the infant needs to be fed at night by an alarm that will sound when the baby begins to move or fuss. This will allow a parent to sleep more soundly than trying to use an alarm clock to wake up for three o’clock feedings.…

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Family Caregiving: Don’t Forget to Take Care of You!

While we may not be able to control all that happens to us, we can control what happens inside us. ~ Benjamin Franklin
It is easy to neglect yourself when taking care of others. Do you feel anxious, depressed, easily overwhelmed? Do you physically notice that you get sick more often, have a frequent upset stomach, trouble sleeping, or other physical issues that have come up?
This month’s caregiver article addresses areas which are imperative to your good health as a caregiver to an aging parent or relative.
Getting enough rest: When you don’t get enough rest it is obvious. It is certainly obvious to those around you and I know for me it is obvious to myself. Although sometimes it takes someone else to point it out. I become cranky and more tearful. Everything feels bigger than it would normally and I lose perspective.
Sometimes if you have a lot of elder care issues you are concerned about it can become difficult to fall asleep. When my father had a stroke a few years back, my mom had difficulty sleeping. She couldn’t turn her mind off from the worry and the things that we needed to take care of during this time. Before you go to bed take some quiet time without the TV or other distractions. Read a book, talk to a friend, or family member to help talk out some of your areas of concern and stress. Sometimes I just want someone to listen without giving me advice. Let them know what you need.
Here are some ideas for easier sleeping:
1. When you go to bed have a pad of paper and pen next to you to purge items from your brain that you want to remember to do the next day.
2. Find times to take short naps if needed. You can set an alarm in your car to get 20 or 30 minutes during your lunch hour that will refresh you for the second half of your day.
3. Still having trouble sleeping and worried about taking medications? Instead of taking medications research natural herbal sleep aids. Making an appointment to see a Naturopathic doctor may be a great help. These doctors go through the same amount of education as other doctors and I love that they test your body chemistry to see what is going on and then can suggest ways to combat your lack of sleep that are natural in course.
Sleep can become a more difficult issue if you are caregiving for someone with Dementia. Their sleep patterns often change and may interfere with yours. You may need to look into nighttime in home care or other alternatives for your family member if lack of sleep occurs regularly.
Healthy Eating: Pay attention to what you are eating. It is so easy to say “I will just grab a quick burger” when you are short on time but how many days in one week are you doing that? Being aware and paying attention to your eating habits is the first step to being able to make changes that may be necessary to your good health. You will have more energy too!
One method is to put some of your eating on automatic pilot. For example: Decide on 3 or so healthy choices for breakfast that are still fairly quick but you know will provide you and your family with a good start to each day. My son is an athlete and in the mornings I would make both he and I a great protein shake for breakfast. I kept the ingredients handy. There is a little blender called the “Magic Bullet.” It comes with containers that blend and have handles to become the cup. So it is all in one! I would make the shake, take off the blade, add the cup ring and hand it to him. A great fruit shake includes a frozen organic fruit, flax seed meal, almond butter, protein powder, some ice, and water.
During the week take a day to do a lot of cooking at one time and then use those foods to make a variety of recipes that take less preparation time since you have already done it and they are healthier choices. For example: Cook up 5 or 6 chicken breasts on the grill using your favorite spices. You can then use the chicken to create different dishes during the week. (as an example a curry dish, or a salad).
Exercising regularly: Get up a bit earlier than the rest of your household to start your day and go for a walk or do a cardio video and use some weights. I can get my workout done in 40 minutes. Check with your doctor of course if you haven’t worked out for a while …