While we may not be able to control all that happens to us, we can control what happens inside us. ~ Benjamin Franklin
It is easy to neglect yourself when taking care of others. Do you feel anxious, depressed, easily overwhelmed? Do you physically notice that you get sick more often, have a frequent upset stomach, trouble sleeping, or other physical issues that have come up?
This month’s caregiver article addresses areas which are imperative to your good health as a caregiver to an aging parent or relative.
Getting enough rest: When you don’t get enough rest it is obvious. It is certainly obvious to those around you and I know for me it is obvious to myself. Although sometimes it takes someone else to point it out. I become cranky and more tearful. Everything feels bigger than it would normally and I lose perspective.
Sometimes if you have a lot of elder care issues you are concerned about it can become difficult to fall asleep. When my father had a stroke a few years back, my mom had difficulty sleeping. She couldn’t turn her mind off from the worry and the things that we needed to take care of during this time. Before you go to bed take some quiet time without the TV or other distractions. Read a book, talk to a friend, or family member to help talk out some of your areas of concern and stress. Sometimes I just want someone to listen without giving me advice. Let them know what you need.
Here are some ideas for easier sleeping:
1. When you go to bed have a pad of paper and pen next to you to purge items from your brain that you want to remember to do the next day.
2. Find times to take short naps if needed. You can set an alarm in your car to get 20 or 30 minutes during your lunch hour that will refresh you for the second half of your day.
3. Still having trouble sleeping and worried about taking medications? Instead of taking medications research natural herbal sleep aids. Making an appointment to see a Naturopathic doctor may be a great help. These doctors go through the same amount of education as other doctors and I love that they test your body chemistry to see what is going on and then can suggest ways to combat your lack of sleep that are natural in course.
Sleep can become a more difficult issue if you are caregiving for someone with Dementia. Their sleep patterns often change and may interfere with yours. You may need to look into nighttime in home care or other alternatives for your family member if lack of sleep occurs regularly.
Healthy Eating: Pay attention to what you are eating. It is so easy to say “I will just grab a quick burger” when you are short on time but how many days in one week are you doing that? Being aware and paying attention to your eating habits is the first step to being able to make changes that may be necessary to your good health. You will have more energy too!
One method is to put some of your eating on automatic pilot. For example: Decide on 3 or so healthy choices for breakfast that are still fairly quick but you know will provide you and your family with a good start to each day. My son is an athlete and in the mornings I would make both he and I a great protein shake for breakfast. I kept the ingredients handy. There is a little blender called the “Magic Bullet.” It comes with containers that blend and have handles to become the cup. So it is all in one! I would make the shake, take off the blade, add the cup ring and hand it to him. A great fruit shake includes a frozen organic fruit, flax seed meal, almond butter, protein powder, some ice, and water.
During the week take a day to do a lot of cooking at one time and then use those foods to make a variety of recipes that take less preparation time since you have already done it and they are healthier choices. For example: Cook up 5 or 6 chicken breasts on the grill using your favorite spices. You can then use the chicken to create different dishes during the week. (as an example a curry dish, or a salad).
Exercising regularly: Get up a bit earlier than the rest of your household to start your day and go for a walk or do a cardio video and use some weights. I can get my workout done in 40 minutes. Check with your doctor of course if you haven’t worked out for a while …
While we may not be able to control all that happens to us, we can control what happens inside us. ~ Benjamin Franklin
Great Family Holiday Deals Still Available Even During Half Term
Finding deals on family holidays is not always the easiest thing to do especially during term time as the prices on deals tend to rise due to supply and demand. This is something that parents have had to deal with for many years and some families may be tempted to take their kids out during term to save some money but this is not advisable for many reasons, mainly because it is against the law and you can be fined up to Aï¿½100. Going abroad and the deals that are on offer are not always the easiest thing to find which means looking for a break closer to home is better value for money.
Not only does taking your kids out during term effect your child’s learning but it also disrupts the school and whether you are given permission to take your child out depends entirely on the school and not on the parent. When you consider the implications of taking your child out of school it really is not worth it and there are some great deals available on the market that will allow you to get away during the half term breaks and bank holidays without having to break the bank. We have also seen a nice change in the weather we are experiencing which may be the sign of winter moving away and autumn starting. This is even more reason to make sure you get away with the family so you are not all stuck indoors when the weather starts improving.
With an influx of bank holidays coming our way in April, now is the time to make sure that you have your family break booked. Whether this is during the Easter breaks or before or after to encompass one of the bank holidays that we can all enjoy, you can find a great deal online. The UK holiday parks are available and often have some great deals available that match the requirements of many families and these have proved to be a popular choice amongst many families over the years and this is a trend that is likely to carry on. You can see the range of deals that are available by simply making a search online and you will soon see that there are many deals available to allow you to take your children on holiday without breaking any laws.…
In today’s ever-changing economy, I believe it is a good idea to have a resume on-hand at all times. It doesn’t matter whether you are a CEO of an outside company (other than your home) or if you are the CEO of Your Home (“A Seasoned Homemaker”) — a job I consider to be the hardest of them all! That is exactly why I wanted to write this article and share my heart with you.
I want you to feel confident about what you do as a Homemaker and how you affect the world around you. We are not just “stay-at-home-moms,” as I have heard derogatorily put now-a-days, but rather we are Momma-preneurs in every sense of the word!
Manage schedules and logistics for a family of five.
Create and balance priorities.
Create and implement a cost-effective budget.
Motivate, coach and counsel children.
Teach and implement model of work and moral ethics.
Work closely with teachers to monitor academic performance of each child within the home environment.
To plan, organize, co-supervise and execute extracurricular activities, both in and out of the home.
Mediate disputes among family member and to facilitate solutions for those disputes.
To be responsible for the purchasing of: clothing, food and supplies. Plan, prepare and serve nutritious meals for a family of five.
Coordinate and execute medical care for all family members.
To co-establish, execute and enforce the loving discipline of the children.
To chauffeur children to: school(s), team sport(s), music lesson(s), play date(s) and more!
Negotiating with suppliers, to pay invoices, reconcile accounts and negotiate savings.
Oversee and organize the arrangements for home and vehicle maintenance and repairs.
Create and maintain a clean home and everything in it for the family.
Meal planning and to create delicious dinners to entertain mate’s employers, clients, and friends.
And, finally to assist my hubby with the management of all family finances and investments.
Summary of Skills
*Effectively perform housekeeping and home management duties in a timely manner.
*Over fourteen year’s child care experience.
*Management, implementation and coordination of multiple activities and schedules.
*Ability to provide stress management strategies to meet Psychological and/or emotional needs of each family member.
*Excellent in problem-solving and trouble-shooting skills
Relevant Skills and Qualifications
Director of Domestic Management – skills include, but are not limited to, performing daily routine housekeeping such as: washing and drying of dishes, maintaining laundry, making of beds, changing of sheets, organizing rooms, general cleaning, disinfecting, and polishing kitchen, baths, bedrooms, laundry facilities and basements. To sweep, mop, wash, wax and polish floors, household trim, walls, furniture and more. Dusting of furniture and vacuuming of carpeting. Pick up debris for the household and empty trash containers. Responsible for implementing tasks for her staff (“the children”) to also assist her with these duties.
Machine Operator – skills/duties include, but are not limited to: washing machines, dryers, dishwashers, garage disposals, electrical equipment, and more.
Home Improvement Supervisor – skills/duties include, but are not limited to: do-it-yourself home improvement projects, painting, general up-keep and maintenance of your structural home, and more. If need be, interview and meet with prospective sub-contractors to assist in home improvement projects.
Director of Account and Financial Services – skills/duties include, but are not limited to: Budget Planning, Accounting; and Financial Management of the families’ daily, weekly, monthly and yearly living expenses. Financial planning and budgeting, coordinating and conducting of all household activities and purchases: such as groceries, clothing, field trips, sports trips, subscriptions, prescriptions and more! Negotiate prices, discounts, credit terms, and transportation arrangements for purchase of household merchandise. To ascertain savings and to use them to the best of her ability.
Secretarial skills/duties include, but are not limited to: maintaining multiple lines of communication, schedules, events, appointments and activities for your family.
Domestic Nursing – skills/duties include, but are not limited to: assessing, implementing and coordinating medical care for each and every family member (including pets) of the household. Being able to monitor, record, and report any symptoms of change of health of a family member (including pets). Administer medication and treatment as prescribed by a nurse practitioner, doctor and/or vet. Being able to assess, plan, implement and evaluate patient (and pet) care on a 24/7 basis.
Planning and Events Coordinator – skills/duties include, but are not limited to: meal planning, preparation, and cooking of daily meals catered to individual family members’ tastes and preferences. Plan mealtime menus and determine size of food portions. Estimate food requirements, costs, nutritional value, and monitor and order supplies as needed. Serve meals timely and pleasantly. Planning of family activities, such as: vacation time, play dates, special events, sporting events, etc.
Social Work Coordinator – skills/duties include, but are not limited to: providing the best possible counsel to assist family members in developing skills. To deal with and resolve social, personal …
Families That Eat Together Experience Improved Health
In North America today, obesity has become the national health crisis. It has risen to near epidemic proportions not just amongst adults but also amongst children. Many households are so busy with work, school and childcare responsibilities that the notion of having a regular family meal together has all but gone by the way side. Because of this, more and more families eat meals out either in fast food establishments or other restaurants and it is estimated that the average family spends more than 40% of its disposable income on restaurant meals of one sort or another. This practice has become so prevalent in North American households that a family meal is most often relegated to a holiday dinner or some other special occasion. As the children move into their teenage years, this becomes even an even more common practice.
Studies indicate that families that take most of their meals out suffer more negative consequences than just those associated with poor nutrition. Eating most meals away from the home leads to markedly poorer overall health and poorer nutrition. It is also leads to higher risk for obesity.
Trying to convince busy working parents of this notion in such a way that will encourage them to take more time planning weekly menus, grocery shopping and preparing family meals has been a difficult process for physicians and dieticians alike.
Recently, research scientists at Rutgers University began looking at this issue with a goal of developing a model that could be implemented to teach parents about the importance of sitting down with their family for a meal. They looked at reports on 68 previously published studies that had looked at the relationship between children’s health and whether or not the family regularly had family meals together. They looked closely at how often those family meals were occurring and what kind of food was being presented at them and consumed by the family members. They were trying to determine if families who sat down for a family meal together on a regular basis had lower obesity rates when compared to those which did not have family meals together regularly.
At first glance at the literature, they determined that children who had regular family meals had higher intake of three important food groups: fruits, vegetables and calcium-rich foods. They also noted that these children consumed more fiber in their diets. Additionally, the more often a family ate their meals together, the less frequently children consumed food items that are considered harmful to a person’s health. They found only a weak link between obesity risk amongst children who ate more family meals but they noted that those children tended to have much lower body mass index levels than those that did not.
From this research, the scientists were able to develop a simple to understand conceptual image which presents their findings in a way that is easy to understand.
The scientists were able to glean a great amount of valuable information which can be used to teach parents how to make better decisions when it comes to the food choices they make for their families. Although many people already know most of this information intuitively, most do not have the time or education needed to interpret scientific reports of this nature. They instead rely on headlines which are broadcast through the media which detail individual studies many of which do not accurately present the information which is contained in the study. The Rutgers University scientists hope that their study of the way in which family meals and children’s health is impacted and their creation of a user-friendly image which summarizes their findings visually will eventually lead to health interventions which benefit many children.…
It is normal for first-time parents to feel a high level of excitement towards having their first child because being a father and a mother would be a life-changing experience. They would love to shop for the essential needs of their baby and may even buy various stuff online, such as a diaper bag backpack on Amazon, toys, and clothes as well. Sometimes, we cannot also stop the grandparents from buying unnecessary things because they would like to pamper and welcome their grandchild, which is a common way to show how happy they are.
Indeed, you are lucky to have such wonderful grandparents because we cannot also accept the reality that some parents cannot experience this due to some misunderstandings in the family. However, this is not a reason to feel bad at all so you have to fill your child with love and care, where he won’t need to feel empty inside. In this way, he will be raised without negativity and when that happens, his life will be normal and no unwanted behavior will be observed as he grows old.
I supposed you know that every baby will always be an angel that’s why they are loved even when the mother is still carrying her in the womb. Now that he is already out in this world, his parents are very happy to take him to different places and they don’t mind carrying this diaper bag wherever they go. But as first-time dads and moms, do you even know what you should store in those bags because I bet some of you may bring even the unnecessary items, while others may also forget the important ones?
You may want to breastfeed your baby when you know that it is time for his milk but doing this in a public place might also make you feel uncomfortable so you should prepare his feeding bottle, lukewarm water, powdered milk, and cereal. I know that breastfeeding is the best and as first-time moms, the feeling that other people can see a part of your chest might be awkward. Don’t worry because you can always store this in a baby bottle and feed your baby, though there are time limits so don’t let it wait too long – visit https://kidshealth.org/en/parents/breast-bottle-feeding.html to know how formula differs from breastfeeding.
Just make sure that you can store them properly because you won’t want to feed your child with spoiled milk. Always remember that formula milk must not be mixed with water because you have to do it only when needed and this will also spoil when not consumed right away. That’s why you have to use a diaper bag backpack with ample rooms to fit all those essentials.
Diapers and Wet Wipes
Sometimes, you cannot notice that the diaper is already filled with pee that’s why you were not able to change it immediately. You should also expect that he may have to poop so you should prepare wet wipes to clean him and a paper towel just in case things gets too messy. It would be ideal to bring extra diapers because we cannot also count how many times your baby needs to change and pretty sure that you don’t want to keep him wet or smell stinky.
Do not forget that you need to maintain the softness of his delicate skin. Therefore, I suggest you bring baby powder and petroleum jelly for his rashes or when you notice that the skin is turning red due to the diaper. Sometimes, you may have to switch brands, too, and make sure that he is not allergic to fibers.
You may also need a changing pad or towel because you can’t just lay him down on any surface. In this way, the chances of acquiring bacteria will be minimized. As parents, you have to be more careful, especially when you are outdoors.
I guess you are very excited about the baby’s day out and pretty sure that you have chosen his best outfit since many people will look at him. Well, this is a given because we always want our children to look great. Parents are just too proud of their child that’s why we provide them nice clothes but do not forget that they cannot use them for a long time so you might want to keep their outfit and save for your future son or daughter.
Keep in mind that you should let them wear an outfit that suits the occasion and proper for the weather as well. These babies have sensitive skin and putting on a fabric that makes them feel too hot won’t be good when it is summer. When the weather is cold, you have to make sure that he will wear something that can make him feel …
When do you stand up for your child, and when do you let her figure it out on her own?
Remember that moment just before your baby was born when the doctor said, “You may feel some pressure”? You may have thought the doctor was referring to just the next few minutes; but it is possible that there was no time limit on that pressure. We feel pressure to provide the best nutrition, shelter and education. We sacrifice, smile and cajole our way through parenthood. We grow accustomed to exhaustion and compromise and learn to be accepting of the human condition on a much deeper level. We even become less judgmental and more grateful. In the midst of this, a living, breathing child trusts, loves and utterly depends on us; but hey, no pressure.
I can’t tell you how many times I have heard frustrated parents lament a situation at school, or a play date or even a family gathering that made the parent feel uncomfortable or even feel sorry for their child. Life is unfair and what should we do when our child gets the short end of the stick?
For me, it really depends on both the setting and the frequency. I’m all for letting a child learn to stand up for him or herself, if there is a basic level of fairness. I’m also all for getting involved when a child is in over their head. Only a parent can determine when to get involved, but I firmly believe that children need their parents to be ready, willing and able to advocate for them. Learning to advocate for our children in a way that builds bridges rather than burning them is a crucial parenting skill.
At school or at the pediatrician or even at a play date, there are moments when we need to advocate for, defend and speak up for our children. Some of the greatest growth spurts in childhood are not made by the children at all, but by brave parents who loathe confrontation, but do it anyway because they must.
Whether we simply remove our child from an unfair play date, or insist that we see a specialist at the emergency room, we are our child’s best and often only advocates.
It is our right and privilege to stand up for our children and it is how we show them that we believe, trust and love them even up to and beyond our own comfort level. We all tell our kids we love them, but those moments of advocacy are the times we show them. In those moments they discover our character and our priorities and it is what builds the foundation of strong and healthy relationships as they grow up.
For a teenager to know their parent has their back when they genuinely need the back up, is huge and often the difference between the courage to talk to a parent and the choice to pull away. Knowing that your mom or dad believes you are someone worth standing up for is the highest approval a teen can get in a world that often disrespects their whole generation just as a matter of principle.
So, here we are, under pressure and getting comfortable with the discomfort, standing together and standing up for what we believe in and the ones we love. I think that may be the greatest legacy we leave our children.
In the meantime, remember to keep your face to the sun so all the shadows will fall behind.…
From the moment they are born babies do many things. Among the most important of course is to grow and develop. As a good parent you want to do your utmost to ensure your precious little one grows healthily and develops properly. Play and physical activity is without doubt an extremely beneficial part of all this.
However, one of the biggest drawbacks for young babies is their lack of mobility until they reach the crawling stage. They become bored, fractious and frustrated and for you the long suffering parent, what is the answer?
An infant bouncer. This simple child activity device is a padded harness suspended in a doorway to allow your child to bounce up and down as they touch the ground with their feet. The baby door bouncer not only provides exercise and stimulation for the child but help strengthen growing legs, bones and muscle in preparation for when baby is ready to walk. The greatest benefit of all for baby ‘s a lot of FUN!
Music is also a great stimulus for babies and often you will note your little one excited and moving to the sound.
Try placing your tot in a baby door bouncer and playing some music. Without doubt both baby and you will find this is an extremely enjoyable experience to share. Take photos or better still take precious video because this is a not to be missed opportunity.
Of course some people may have safety concerns. but you shouldn’t have. These bouncers for babies have been proven to be safe and many thousands are sold every year. While they are simple and quick to install, literally hooking onto an existing door frame, you must of course follow the fitting instructions.
These devices are NOT substitute baby sitters and you must NEVER leave baby unattended in one. Although they can provide stimulation and exercise they should only be used for a maximum of twenty minutes per day as your child’s bones are still developing and must not be overstressed.
Would I use one? Yes, all three of my children spent time bouncing like little Tiggers as babies and loved every second of it. There is no doubt in my mind, your little one will love it too!…